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Western Housewives – New Years Resolutions

Western Housewives
New Year’s Resolutions. Whether you love them or hate them, it seems that this time of year you can’t escape them.
In all of my twenty-seven years, I have only written down and stuck to one New Year’s Resolution list. I was fifteen. I’m pretty sure my list consisted of things like, “Read bible more,” “Get Good Grades (B’s)” and “Save enough money to buy new boots.” I was obsessed with boots. Specifically, cockroach killers. I would say it was a phase but being obsessed with cockroach killers is more of a lifestyle. That year I stuck to my list pretty well. My closet, bible, and old report cards can attest to that.
With a lot of new changes coming our way in the year 2020, I thought that it would be in everyone’s best interest if we did a “McMillen Family New Year’s Resolution List.” Since Sonora can’t read or write, I will of course be her spokeswoman and since Kelton isn’t a very willing participant, I will also be his voice. This is going to work out very well in mama’s favor.
MCMILLEN FAMILY NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTION LIST 2020:
1. Eat more beef.
This is for all three of us and goes without saying. Eating beef is really easy to do when you love it and raise it. Not to mention it’s our duty as citizens of Rural America to eat beef. It’s our livelihood, our heritage, and our future. The next time you walk down to your local diner, consider ordering beef enchiladas instead of chicken. Your waistline and local rancher will thank you.
2. Time Management.
This resolution is also for all three of us and is going to be crucial come May. In between branding and rodeoing that month we will somehow find the time to add another little top hand to our family. Mama is thrilled, Dad is hoping for a boy and Sonora has chosen to remain neutral on the subject. This both calms and terrifies me.
3. Take your boots off before you come in the house.
This resolution is for whoever should choose to read it and yes, Kelton, that means you, too.
4. Eat your vegetables.
I don’t really care who thinks this applies to them as long as a certain three-year-old cowgirl remembers that French fries do not count as vegetables.
5. Be a more Prepared Rodeo Wife.
I think this is obvious who this applies to. I plan on having all the dates in my phone. When the books open, when the rodeo is, and when we need to be there. My family would probably also appreciate it if I had all kinds of snacks available 24/7. Cheetos included.
6. Be more helpful.
This is a genuine resolution that I think we should all keep in mind. My husband needs help a lot. Whether it’s buttering his biscuits, sorting cattle or opening gates, he is usually doing it by himself because I tend to have my hands full with children lately. I often look out the window and see him doing some laborious task by himself. Instead of feeling burdened that he needs my help, too, I feel relief that I have a loving husband who doesn’t ask for my help but sure is grateful when I lend it. We all need to help more and more. Yes, Sonora, that means when Mom is making beds, too.
7. Take time to smell the roses.
I only have one rose bush in our yard, but I might have more if I would slow down and enjoy it. Life gets so fast. I find myself wondering if what I did on a certain day really mattered. Or, if I really accomplished anything. My own mother is quick to remind me that this is a special time in my life where I am trying to raise little human beings into kind, caring, and most importantly Godly little cowkids. That is the most important job in the world. When I stop and remember these words, it makes me want to slow down. Stop and feel the sunshine, smile at my little kiddo, and take her on a horse ride not just to gather cattle but to maybe play in the creek and pick a blackberry or two. These days are long, but oh how important they are.
Well, there it is. My 2020 New Year’s Resolution list. It’s not very long but I assure you it will take me all year to accomplish any one of these. That is the beauty of the Resolution’s list though. It gives you a chance to step back, look at your life, and realize that maybe you don’t need to change everything. Maybe life is good just the way it is. As long as you keep growing, keep praying, and keep eating beef.
Read more in the January issue of Oklahoma Farm & Ranch.
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Farm Dogs & Table Scraps

What’s Safe and What’s Not?
Growing up on a farm, our dogs were tough. They roamed the pastures, slept under the barn, and ate just about anything they could get their paws on—whether we meant for them to or not. I’ll admit, I never thought twice when one of our old cow dogs snatched a biscuit off the table or licked up a spill from the barn floor. I’ve even seen a dog steal a whole rib bone off a plate and trot off like he’d won the lottery. And somehow, they always seemed fine.
But here’s the thing—just because they survived doesn’t mean it was safe. For every farm dog that lucked out, there’s another that wasn’t so fortunate. Some human foods can be downright toxic to dogs, and a little bit of bad luck (or a smaller, more sensitive dog) can turn a harmless snack into an emergency.
Common toxic foods lying around the farmhouse
If you’ve got a farm dog—or any dog, really—you need to be aware of the dangers lurking in everyday foods. Some of the biggest culprits include:
Chocolate – The darker it is, the worse it is. Even a little can cause vomiting, seizures, or worse.
Grapes & Raisins – No one’s exactly sure why, but they can cause kidney failure fast.
Onions & Garlic – In large enough amounts, these can destroy red blood cells, leading to anemia.
Xylitol (Found in Sugar-Free Gum & Candy) – This artificial sweetener can send a dog’s blood sugar crashing and cause liver failure.
Alcohol – Even small amounts can be deadly to dogs, affecting their nervous system much more than it does ours.
Bones from Cooked Meat – While not necessarily toxic, they can splinter and cause serious internal injuries.
Macadamia Nuts – These can lead to weakness, vomiting, and even paralysis in dogs.
What to do if your dog eats something toxic
First, don’t panic—but don’t ignore it either. If you know your dog ate something dangerous, call your vet immediately. They can tell you whether to induce vomiting or if it’s something that requires urgent care. If it’s after hours, contact the ASPCA Animal Poison Control Center (888-426-4435) or the Pet Poison Helpline (855-764-7661).
Prevention is always the best medicine, so keep toxic foods out of reach. That might mean keeping the trash can secured, making sure kids don’t slip the dog a treat under the table, or just being more mindful of what’s left on the counter.
Our farm dogs might have been lucky, but luck isn’t a great strategy when it comes to their health. A little awareness goes a long way in making sure they stay happy, healthy, and ready for the next day’s work.
For more information
ASPCA Animal Poison Control: www.aspca.org/pet-care/animal-poison-control
Pet Poison Helpline: www.petpoisonhelpline.com
Visit www.akc.org/expert-advice/nutrition/foods-your-dog-should-never-eat
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Summer Squash and Corn Chowder

By Lacey Vilhauer
Total time: 40 minutes
Servings: 6-7
Ingredients
- 6 slices bacon, cooked and crumbled and 1 1/2 Tbsp rendered bacon fat reserved
- 1 1/2 lbs yellow squash, chopped (about 3 medium)
- 2/3 cup thinly sliced celery
- 1 cup diced onion
- 1 Tbsp flour
- 2 cloves garlic, minced
- 2 3/4 cup milk (I used 1%)
- 5 cups canned or fresh cut corn (from about 6 ears corn), divided
- 1/2 cup heavy cream
- 1 1/2 tsp chopped fresh thyme (or 1/2 tsp dried)
- 3/4 tsp salt, then more to taste
- 1/4 tsp freshly ground black pepper, then more to taste if desired
- 3/4 cup shredded cheddar cheese, for serving
- Chopped green onion for garnish (optional)
Instructions
Heat 4 tsp reserved bacon fat in a large pot over medium-high heat. Add celery and onion and sauté 2 minutes then add the squash.
Saute until tender, about 6 minutes, adding in garlic and flour during last 2 minutes of sauteing. Reduce heat slightly.
Add 1 1/2 cups milk, 2 cups of the corn, thyme, salt and pepper to the sauteed veggies.
To a blender add remaining 3 cups of corn, remaining 1 1/4 cups milk and the cream. Process in blender until nearly smooth (about 30 seconds).
Add pureed mixture to pot and stir to blend. Cook until mixture reaches a light boil.
Serve warm with shredded cheese, crumbled bacon and sliced green onions if desired.
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Western Housewives – May 2025

By Summer McMillen
All my married life I have thought that when husbands all got together horseback after a hard days work they were probably rating their wives on a scale from one to ten based on their various capabilities. Did Wife A have a good hat crease? Was Wife B good help in the branding pen? Was Wife C an excellent mother? Was Wife D hospitable to everyone? Could Wife E make a decent gallon of sweet tea? Did Wife F keep a tidy saddle house?
Presumably, when Wife B did not live up to Wife A there was a fist fight followed by wife shaming of Husband B. His status amongst the cowboys immediately fell and he would be behind for the rest of his life in his cowboy career.
He would come home ashamed his wife couldn’t flambé a decent bananas foster and she couldn’t hoolihan either. He would be distraught and said wife would feel his pain.
Of course, this never happened to me like I thought it would. My husband always came home with a smile on his face and I’m pretty sure “flambé” isn’t even in a cowboys vocabulary.
Nonetheless, these imaginary fights and social rankings have plagued my brain for years. It has caused me to always be in competition with myself to be the very best at everything I did. Which I have eventually realized is a trait of women all around the world.
While we are cooking a four course meal for our families we start to think about how we actually should be practicing heading steers instead.
While we are practicing our horsemanship we start to think about how we should actually be preparing a nutritious and elaborate meal for our families.
It is a constant battle that women have created and proceeded to fight for centuries.
One day the inner battle got to me and I finally broke down as we were riding wheat pasture and confessed to my husband my guilt. I was so sorry that I wasn’t a better cowgirl. I was so sorry that the house was a mess. I was so sorry that I would never be on The Cowboy Channel. I was so sorry that I had lost his good pair of gloves. (Except I didn’t actually mean to confess that last part. Some things are just better left unknown.) I apologized again and again and told him I was sorry and he probably never wanted to bring his friends over for supper ever again.
Instead of consoling me, he just started looking at me like I was crazy. Which is what all good husbands do.
He stopped his horse and looked at me and said “Do you know how cowboys rate each other’s ranch wives?”
So many thoughts started filling my brain. Was it looks? Gentleness? Laundry speed? Work ethic?
Then he revealed their secret. “Cowboys rate each other’s wives by how well they can cook eggs for breakfast.”
His point of course, was that men don’t think about each other’s wives. As long as they get their eggs for breakfast. In another twist of irony, my husband taught me how to fry the perfect egg. What can I say? It’s a man’s world.
Since then, I have let go of my irrational fears and doubt and have simply been living life. It’s all anyone can do. I may not team rope the best. I may get my fingers when I’m trying to dally and I may not have the tidiest saddle house. But I try hard at everything I do and I do it all out of love for my family and finally, myself.
So, if you’re a woman this Mother’s Day and you catch yourself feeling down amongst life constant pressures just remember you are not alone. You can almost guarantee there is a woman in every household that needs a little pick me up. Maybe you should just go outside. Maybe you should sit down and count your blessings. Or, maybe you should have your husband fry you some eggs.
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