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Life of a Ranch Wife
By Lanna Mills
It is February, which means that love is in the air, and Valentine’s Day is near. This month we are reminded to show the ones whom we love just what they mean to us. Retailers urge us to buy our loved ones candy, jewelry, flowers, and other gifts to show our affection.
While this is thoughtful and kind, I thought it would be nice to learn from couples who have held on to each other for many years. Just what is the secret to a lasting relationship? What, if any, are their Valentine’s Day traditions? What are some of the challenges ranching couples face that others do not? I asked these questions to several couples who have long-term marriages.
What is the secret to a lasting relationship?
It turns out that there is no one secret, although almost all of them mentioned communication. We must communicate with one another, or we will have no idea what the other is thinking or what they are needing. The trick with communication is finding a way to communicate without fighting. Let’s face it: all couples argue and disagree, but it is being able to reconcile and work through issues together that builds a stronger relationship.
Along with communication, laughter, kindness, respect, time for one another and support are some other secrets to a long and happy marriage. Our spouses can drive us crazy at times, but we must remember to let them know that we love them. When we fell in love and were married, we promised ourselves to one another. We promised to be there for each other through good times and bad including the inevitable hard times, heartache and pain. In these times we must turn to each other, be there for one another, and remember that with all the bad, there is even more good.
What are your Valentine’s Day traditions?
Many couples choose to go out to eat at a nice restaurant for Valentine’s Day. Sometimes going out isn’t an option. In this case some choose to stay in and cook their significant other’s favorite dish, enjoy a movie, go horseback riding, or just go feed cattle together. Some feel that Valentine’s Day is a silly holiday made up by retailers for nothing more than a day of big spending. Whether we choose to celebrate Valentine’s or not, we need to remember to show our husbands, wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, and all those we hold dear that they are cared for and loved, not only on Valentine’s but every day. We never know what the future holds for us so we need to take advantage of what we have and cherish it for as long as we can.
What are challenges ranching couples face that others may not?
Ranching is a 365 day-a-year job, and our lives revolve around the ranch and our livestock. Something always needs to be done, and planning is almost always a waste of time. We can plan all we want to, but just because you have planned a nice date doesn’t mean it will get to happen.
Someone will call and tell you that you have cattle out or a heifer will decide to calve. Then your dinner date turns into a date involving putting cattle back in and fixing fence or pulling a calf. Financial challenges may also come along with ranching. The market could crash, sickness could spread through your herd or drought could ruin the grass and dry up all your creeks and ponds. Ranching is a gamble, and nothing is guaranteed.
Marriage is a partnership of two people working together, giving all they have to each other and loving unconditionally. Giving up sometimes seems like an easy way out and has become common. Love and marriage can be hard, but most things worth having are. Finding time for one another and having a common dream are very important.
My husband and I love ranching and neither would want any other lifestyle. We have faced many challenges and difficulties. We have had very bad times, and we have had very good times, but most importantly through both we have had each other. I am no expert on love or marriage, but I hope that these secrets from those couples who seem to have it all figured out will help. I love my husband, our son, our lifestyle, and the life we have made for each other, and I hope each of you find happiness and love. Happy Valentine’s Day!
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When Peppers Bite Back
Most of us have been there. You take a bite of something that looks harmless enough, and within seconds, your mouth is on fire. Your eyes water, your nose runs, and suddenly you’re questioning every decision that led you to that moment. Whether it’s a jalapeño that packed more punch than expected or a sauce someone swore “wasn’t that bad,” peppers have a way of keeping people humble.
There is, however, a way to measure that heat before you ever take a bite. It’s called the Scoville scale, and it’s the standard used to rank just how hot a pepper can be. The measurement is expressed in Scoville Heat Units, or SHU. The higher the number, the more heat you can expect. A bell pepper sits at zero, meaning no heat at all. Jalapeños usually land somewhere between 2,500 and 8,000 SHU, while the upper end of the scale climbs into the millions.
The system dates back to 1912, when pharmacist Wilbur Scoville developed a method to test pepper heat. His approach was simple, if not a little impractical by today’s standards. Pepper extract was diluted with sugar water until a panel of tasters could no longer detect the burn. The more dilution required, the hotter the pepper. It worked, but it depended heavily on human perception, which is far from consistent.
Today, the process is far more precise. Instead of relying on taste, scientists measure the concentration of compounds called capsaicinoids using laboratory equipment. Those numbers are then converted into Scoville Heat Units. It takes the guesswork out of the equation and gives growers, processors, and consumers a reliable way to compare peppers.
Capsaicinoids are the group of compounds responsible for heat, with capsaicin being the main contributor. Contrary to what a lot of people believe, the seeds are not where the heat lives. Most of it is concentrated in the white inner ribs of the pepper. The seeds can seem hot because they come into contact with those oils, but removing the inner ribs is the most effective way to dial the heat back while keeping the flavor.
That burning sensation you feel isn’t actually heat in the traditional sense. Capsaicin interacts with receptors in your mouth that are designed to detect pain and temperature. Your brain reads that signal as burning, even though there’s no physical damage being done at typical levels. Depending on how much you’ve had, that sensation can linger anywhere from a few minutes to well over half an hour.
One thing worth keeping in mind is that not all peppers are created equal, even within the same variety. Growing conditions, soil, weather, and maturity all play a role in how much capsaicin a pepper develops. Two jalapeños from different fields, or even different plants in the same field, can vary more than you might expect.
At the far end of the scale are peppers that push the limits of what most people would consider edible. Varieties like the Carolina Reaper have recorded levels exceeding 2 million SHU. That’s well beyond the point of casual consumption and into territory where even a small amount can be overwhelming. While some people seek that level of heat for the challenge, it’s not something to take lightly.
For everyday use, the Scoville scale is less about chasing extremes and more about making informed choices. If you know your comfort level, you can select peppers that add flavor without overpowering a dish. It also helps explain why a recipe that calls for “one pepper” can turn out very differently depending on what you pick up at the store or out of the garden.
In the end, that moment when your mouth feels like it’s on fire isn’t as mysterious as it seems. There’s a system behind it, and a little understanding of the Scoville scale can go a long way in keeping your next bite from turning into a regret.
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Pollinators on the Ranch
When most people think about wildlife on a ranch, they probably picture deer slipping through the trees, turkeys moving across a pasture or quail flushing from cover. Those species matter, and many landowners manage with them in mind. But some of the most important wildlife on a farm or ranch is much smaller. Bees, butterflies, moths, beetles, flies, wasps, hummingbirds and even bats all play a part in keeping native plants and food systems working.
Pollinators move pollen from one flower to another, which allows many plants to produce seed, fruit and the next generation of growth. That matters in gardens and orchards, but it also matters in pastures, prairies and native rangeland. According to the article provided, the United States Department of Agriculture reports that 75 percent of the world’s flowering plants and about 35 percent of the world’s food crops depend on animal pollinators to reproduce.
For Oklahoma ranchers, pollinators are more than something nice to see on a warm afternoon. They are tied to plant diversity, soil cover, wildlife habitat and the overall health of the land.
A pasture with flowers, seed-producing plants and a mix of grasses and forbs usually supports more life than a pasture with only one or two plant types. That does not mean every acre has to look wild or unmanaged. It means diversity has value. A ranch that supports many kinds of plants can also support many kinds of insects. Those insects feed birds, turkey poults, quail chicks, bats and other wildlife. Some predatory insects also help keep pest insects in check.
Pollinators are a sign that something is working. If butterflies, bees and other beneficial insects are present, the land is likely offering food, cover and seasonal blooms. If they are absent, it may be worth asking why. There may not be enough flowering plants. Grazing pressure may be too heavy at the wrong time. Herbicide use may be reducing the plants pollinators need. The issue may be drought, timing or a lack of plant variety.
The monarch butterfly is one of the best-known examples. Monarchs need milkweed because it is the only food source for their caterpillars. Adult monarchs also need nectar plants, especially during migration. Oklahoma sits in an important part of that migration route. In spring, monarchs moving north need milkweed for reproduction. In fall, monarchs moving south need blooming plants for energy before continuing toward Mexico.
That fall food source can be easy to overlook. A pasture may have plenty of grass and still offer little for a migrating butterfly if there are no flowers in bloom. Late-season plants such as Maximilian sunflower, blazing star, goldenrod, asters and cowpen daisy can make a difference. In the Noble Research Institute article, Will Moseley said their monarch monitoring showed a simple result: butterflies were found where flowering plants were present, and they were not found where flowers were absent.
That is a useful lesson for any landowner. Pollinator habitat does not have to be complicated. It starts with plants.
For ranchers, the goal is not to turn working land into a flower bed. The goal is to manage in a way that leaves room for useful plants to grow, bloom and set seed. Grazing management can help. If the same pasture is grazed hard at the same time every year, the same plants may get set back again and again. Changing grazing timing, leaving rest periods and avoiding overuse can give more plants a chance to bloom. Rotational grazing, when planned well, can benefit both livestock and pollinators.
Prescribed fire can also be useful when used carefully and legally. Fire timing matters. Burning every acre the same way at the same time can favor some plants and reduce others. Varying burn timing across years and pastures can create a more mixed plant community. That variety can help pollinators, ground-nesting birds and grazing animals.
Herbicide use is another consideration. There are times when herbicides are needed, especially for invasive or problem plants. But broad use can also remove the forbs that bees and butterflies depend on. Spot spraying, proper timing and targeted control can help landowners manage weeds while keeping beneficial plants in the pasture. Every place is different, so the best plan depends on the ranch’s goals, plant community and problem species.
Pollinators also need nesting sites. Not all bees live in hives. In fact, many native bees nest in the ground, hollow stems or cavities in wood. Leaving some undisturbed areas, standing stems, brushy edges or bare patches of well-drained soil can support native bees. A perfectly clean landscape is often less useful to wildlife than one with some structure and variety.
Water can help as well. Shallow water sources, damp soil or safe access around ponds and tanks can be useful, especially during dry weather. The key is to avoid drowning hazards. Small stones, floating wood or shallow edges can give insects a place to land.
For landowners interested in beekeeping, honey bees can become another small enterprise. A few hives may provide honey for family, gifts or local sales. Local honey often has a strong market, and bees can fit well on small acreages or larger ranches. Still, honey bees are livestock and need management. New beekeepers should start small, learn from an experienced mentor and understand seasonal care before investing heavily. The Noble article shared advice from Josh and Brook Gaskamp, who recommended getting a mentor, starting small and experimenting until finding what works.
Beekeeping is not the only way to support pollinators, though. A person can help pollinators without owning a single hive. Planting native flowers, protecting milkweed, reducing unnecessary pesticide use and allowing some areas to bloom can all help. Even fence rows, field corners, creek banks and lightly used areas can become valuable habitat when managed with pollinators in mind.
Pollinators also add enjoyment to the land. There is something rewarding about seeing monarchs on fall flowers, bumble bees working a patch of blooms or hummingbirds visiting trumpet-shaped flowers near the house. Those moments remind landowners that a ranch is more than livestock, fences and forage. It is a living system.
For many producers, the practical reason to care about pollinators is simple. What helps pollinators often helps the whole ranch. More plant diversity can mean better soil cover, more wildlife habitat, more insects for birds, more seasonal forage options and a landscape that can better handle stress. Pollinators are part of that bigger picture.
A ranch does not have to be managed only for bees or butterflies to benefit them. In many cases, good land stewardship already points in the right direction. Avoid overgrazing. Encourage plant diversity. Leave some blooms. Be careful with chemicals. Think about timing. Watch what shows up.
The smallest wildlife on the ranch can tell a big story about the health of the land. When the flowers are blooming and the pollinators are working, it is a good sign the pasture is doing more than growing grass. It is supporting life from the ground up.
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Apple Fritter Quick Bread
Total Time: 1 hour and 40 minutes
Servings: 10
2 medium apples (any type), peeled, cored & diced
1/3 cup brown sugar
1 tsp cinnamon
1/2 cup unsalted butter, softened
2/3 cup granulated sugar
2 large eggs
1 1/2 tsp vanilla extract
1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
1 3/4 tsp baking powder
1/2 cup milk
For the Glaze:
- 1/2 cup (60g) powdered sugar
1–2 tbsp milk
1/4 tsp vanilla extract
Instructions:
Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease and line a 9×5-inch loaf pan with parchment paper.
Peel and chop apples and place in a bowl with brown sugar and cinnamon. Toss and set aside.
In a large mixing bowl, cream together butter and granulated sugar until light and fluffy. Beat in eggs one at a time, then add vanilla. In a separate bowl, whisk together flour and baking powder. Gradually add dry ingredients to the butter mixture, alternating with milk, mixing until just combined.
Next, pour half of the batter into the loaf pan, top with half of the apple mixture, then repeat with remaining batter and apples. Lightly swirl with a knife for a marbled effect.
Bake for 50–55 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted in the center comes out clean.
Cool in pan for 10 minutes, then transfer to a wire rack to cool completely.
In a small bowl, whisk together powdered sugar, milk, and vanilla until smooth. Drizzle over cooled bread.
Slice and enjoy warm or at room temperature.
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