Country Lifestyle
Where the Paved Road Ends: We Traded Front Porches for Facebook
By Beth Watkins
I miss the days of living in a little one-stoplight town. Everybody knew everybody. If you rode your bike somewhere you weren’t supposed to be, by the time you got home your momma had already gotten a phone call. And if you sneezed on the east side of town, Miss Martha on the west side was already adding your sinuses to the church prayer list.
Every town had a few little old ladies who somehow knew everybody’s business and didn’t mind discussing someone else’s dirty laundry. Today, I guess they call it “spilling the tea.” The difference is, back then they whispered about it over coffee. Today folks post it before breakfast.
Social media wears me smooth out.
But it’s like watching a train wreck. You just can’t look away.
My sister, Glenna, lives a couple of hours from me. Most mornings, before noon, one of us sends the other a screenshot of the most jaw-dropping post we’ve found on our local community page.
One day someone posted, “Can somebody bring my mom and me a Pepsi? She gets paid tomorrow and will pay you back.”
I answered with nothing but a laughing emoji.
Then I sent her one from my town.
“Can somebody bring me a garden hose? My little girl wants to play in her kiddie pool, but I don’t have a hose to fill it.”
I texted my sister, “Do they own a bucket? A water pitcher? Maybe rinse out a trash can and carry water!”
Now before anybody gets their feathers ruffled, my sister and I have a pact. We never comment. We just send our replies to each other. My husband says we’d be labeled as “mean girls.”
We prefer to think of it as community service… spreading common sense from one end of Oklahoma to the other.
Now don’t misunderstand me. If your house burned down, your husband lost his job, or life knocked the wind out of you, neighbors ought to show up before you even have to ask. That’s what communities are for.
But somewhere along the way we stopped asking ourselves, “How can I figure this out?” and started asking, “Who can fix this for me?”
It wasn’t because life was easier. It was because people expected more from themselves and less from everyone else.
I miss that.
Sometimes I wonder how we’d survive if we had to live the way our grandparents did. Can you imagine how many folks would be in real trouble if they had to haul a bucket of water from the creek just to have water in the house?
I also miss when every thought didn’t need an audience.
Back in my hometown there was a widow whose heart was bigger than her house. She loved to cook, and she loved having company. Instead of sitting on her front porch wishing someone would stop by, she’d cook a big meal and call the fire department or the police department and invite them over for supper.
She didn’t wait for community. She created it.
That little lady never threw herself a pity party. She never posted about being lonely or wondered why nobody came to visit.
She simply moved first… and they came.
She chose to be the blessing instead of waiting on one.
Remember when folks knew your business because they lived life alongside you? Today everyone knows your business because you posted it, with filters, hashtags and a play-by-play.
Now don’t get me wrong. I use social media too. It’s how I keep up with family and friends who live far away. I love watching babies grow up, seeing vacation pictures, celebrating anniversaries and rejoicing over answered prayers.
And yes… I use it for entertainment.
Y’all letting AI give you a makeover and posting it like it’s an actual picture… come on now. Every once in a while it’s fun to pretend your Fairy Godmother showed up with a pumpkin, a couple of mice and a little bibbidi-bobbidi-boo. But every day?
Cinderella… it’s after midnight. You’ve lost your shoe.
I miss when people were a little more humble. If they received a blessing, they thanked God for it. They let their character do the talking instead of their Facebook page.
Somewhere along the way we’ve traded humility for visibility.
In our little one-stoplight town, we didn’t need an app to find our friends. We knew exactly where they’d be. We’d spend Friday nights dragging Main, making lap after lap from one end of town to the other. If you didn’t have enough gas money, you’d park at the tag office or the school parking lot and sit on the hood of your car.
We were connected long before Wi-Fi.
The funny thing is, we have more ways to communicate than any generation before us, yet somehow we’ve never been lonelier. We can video call someone on the other side of the world, but many of us don’t know the name of the person who lives across the street.
We’ve traded front porches for Facebook, driveways for direct messages, and waving across the fence for clicking a thumbs-up emoji.
Maybe the answer isn’t another app, another platform or another community page. Maybe it’s remembering how we were raised.
Figure a few things out for yourself.
Keep a few things to yourself.
Help your neighbor before they ask.
Wave at people you disagree with.
Sit on a front porch every once in a while.
And every now and then… tuck your crazy in.
Country Lifestyle
Lacey’s Pantry: Baked Ziti
By Lacey Vilhauer
Ingredients
- 1 pound (16 ounces) ziti noodles
- 2 tablespoons olive oil
- 4 garlic cloves, pressed
- 1 medium yellow onion, diced
- 1 pound ground beef
- 1 pound mild Italian sausage
- 5 cups marinara sauce
- 1 teaspoon Italian seasoning
- 1 teaspoon kosher salt
- ½ teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes
- 2 cups shredded mozzarella cheese, divided
- 1 cup whole milk ricotta cheese
- ½ cup grated Parmesan cheese, divided
- 3 tablespoons chopped fresh parsley, divided
- ¼ teaspoon black pepper
- 2 large eggs
Instructions
Cook ziti according to package directions. Drain and set aside.
While the pasta cooks, heat olive oil in a large skillet over medium-high heat. Sauté garlic and onion for 2 minutes. Add beef and sausage and cook until browned. Drain off excess fat and return the meat to the skillet.
Add marinara sauce to the skillet. Use your favorite pasta sauce or make your own! Stir in Italian seasoning, salt and red pepper flakes. Simmer on low heat until the pasta is done. Stir half of the meat sauce into the cooked noodles and reserve the rest for layering.
In a small mixing bowl, combine 1 cup of the mozzarella, the ricotta, ¼ cup of the Parmesan, 2 tablespoons of the parsley, the black pepper and the eggs. Mix until combined.
Assemble the ziti in a 13×9 baking dish or in ramekins for individual servings. Spread half of the sauced noodles in the bottom. Dollop half of the cheese mixture over the top and spread it evenly, then add ½ cup of mozzarella and half of the reserved meat sauce.
Repeat with the remaining noodles, cheese mixture and meat sauce. Top with the remaining ½ cup of mozzarella and the remaining ¼ cup of Parmesan.
Bake uncovered at 375 degrees for 20 to 25 minutes, until bubbly and the cheese is melted. Remove from the oven and top with the remaining 1 tablespoon of parsley. Serve hot and enjoy!
Country Lifestyle
A Better Fire Pit Season
By Ann Asher
The first cool evenings of September make sitting outside sound good again. After months of Oklahoma heat, a fire pit, a few chairs and an evening outdoors can finally feel inviting.
Before you strike the match, take a few minutes to make sure your fire pit area is ready for fall.
Start with location. Set a fire pit on a level, noncombustible surface such as concrete, brick or patio blocks, not directly on dry grass or other vegetation. The National Fire Protection Association recommends keeping fire pits at least 10 feet from anything that can burn, including decks, siding, fences, overhanging branches and outdoor structures.
That distance matters even more after a dry summer. Even when evenings cool down, dormant grass, fallen leaves and other dry vegetation can catch a spark fast. Clear leaves, sticks and other debris from around the pit before you use it, and skip the fire on windy evenings.
Check whether your county or town has burn restrictions in place. Drought can linger well into fall, and local rules may change with fire danger. A fire that was fine one weekend may be a bad idea the next if conditions have worsened.
For wood-burning pits, use clean, dry, seasoned firewood. Don’t burn trash, treated lumber or painted wood. Never use gasoline or other flammable liquids to start or relight a fire. Commercial fire starters or ordinary kindling are much safer.
Once the fire is going, keep it manageable. A backyard fire pit doesn’t need to become a bonfire to keep you warm. Smaller fires are easier to control, throw fewer embers and are much easier to put out at the end of the evening.
Keep children and pets well away from the pit, and set chairs far enough back that no one sits directly over the heat or in the path of sparks. The NFPA recommends a three-foot child-free zone around the fire.
Look at what else is nearby before everyone settles in. Blankets, loose clothing, outdoor cushions and even the stack of firewood beside the pit can become hazards if they sit too close.
Keep a way to put out the fire within reach. A garden hose, a bucket of water or a shovel and dirt can all work, depending on your fire pit. Never leave a fire unattended, even if it seems to be dying down.
When the evening is over, make sure the fire is completely out. For a wood fire, water the coals, stir them and water them again until no heat, glow or flame remains. Let ashes cool completely, then store them in a metal container with a secure lid, away from anything that can burn.
A fire pit doesn’t need much to become one of the best parts of fall. A safe spot, a little preparation and a manageable fire are usually all it takes. Then all that’s left is finding a comfortable chair and enjoying an Oklahoma evening that is finally cool enough to stay outside.
Country Lifestyle
Canning 101
By NTFR Staff
It seems to happen every summer. The garden suddenly produces more tomatoes, cucumbers and green beans than anyone could possibly eat, and before long someone asks, “Maybe I should learn to can?”
For many families, canning is a tradition passed down for generations. For others, it’s a new hobby that offers the satisfaction of stocking pantry shelves with homegrown food. Either way, getting started can feel overwhelming. Pressure canners, boiling water baths, jars, lids, processing times and safety recommendations are enough to make anyone wonder where to begin.
Home canning isn’t difficult once you understand the basics.
Canning preserves food in sealed jars by heating them to destroy microorganisms and create a vacuum seal. The USDA approves only two methods for home canning: boiling water bath canning and pressure canning. Which one you use depends entirely on what you’re preserving.
A boiling water bath is exactly what it sounds like. You submerge filled jars completely in boiling water and process them for a specific amount of time. Because boiling water only reaches 212 degrees Fahrenheit at sea level, this method is safe only for foods that are naturally high in acid or have enough added acid to prevent dangerous bacteria from growing.
That makes water bath canning a good fit for jams, jellies, fruit preserves, pickles, chutneys, fruit butters and many tomato products that have the proper amount of bottled lemon juice or citric acid added according to a tested recipe.
Pressure canning works differently. A sealed canner traps steam, and the temperature climbs well above the boiling point of water to about 240 degrees Fahrenheit. That higher temperature is necessary to destroy Clostridium botulinum spores, which can survive ordinary boiling and produce the toxin that causes botulism.
Because of that, you must pressure can low-acid foods such as green beans, corn, carrots, potatoes, meats, poultry, seafood and soups. A boiling water bath isn’t safe for these foods, no matter how long you boil the jars.
For most beginners, water bath canning is the easiest place to start. The equipment costs less, the process is simpler and recipes like strawberry jam or dill pickles are forgiving enough to build confidence. Many people who enjoy preserving fruit eventually buy a pressure canner once they want to put up vegetables or homemade stock.
Pressure canning doesn’t need to be intimidating, either. Modern pressure canners include multiple built-in safety features and are far different from the exploding canners in the old stories many people heard decades ago. Like any kitchen tool, they’re safe when used according to the manufacturer’s directions and with tested recipes.
Whichever method you choose, one rule never changes: always use recipes that have been scientifically tested. Family recipes may taste wonderful fresh, but they aren’t always safe for canning. Changing ingredient amounts, thickening soups with flour, adding extra vegetables or reducing vinegar can all affect the safety of the finished product. The USDA and the National Center for Home Food Preservation remain the gold standards for home canning recipes and processing recommendations.
Today’s recommendations may also differ from the ones your grandparents followed. Research has improved over the years, and food safety guidance has changed with it. Methods like open-kettle canning, oven canning and sealing jars by turning them upside down are no longer considered safe for shelf-stable foods.
If you’ve never canned before, you don’t have to preserve an entire garden your first weekend. Start with one recipe. Learn how to prepare the jars, measure headspace, remove air bubbles and process them correctly. Once you hear that satisfying “ping” as the lids seal, you’ll understand why so many people find canning rewarding.
Opening a jar of peaches in January or serving homemade salsa long after the tomatoes are gone is a special kind of reward. With a little knowledge, the right equipment and a commitment to tested recipes, anyone can preserve the harvest safely for months to come.
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