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To Everything There is a Season

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I love how Oklahoma definitely has all four seasons. Sometimes it may not seem like much of a break in between season’s. The weather can be blustery one winter day and the very next day it’s eighty degrees and we are wearing shorts, wondering how we skipped past Spring. Hang on, because lo and behold, the next day we wake up to the sound of Spring showers!

Spring is refreshing. Time to open up those windows and let the house breathe a little. Spring also represents fresh starts, new life. Spring to our soul, is the season of our youth. We celebrate our little sprouts and they quickly start growing like weeds. Full of energy and reckless abandon. This is the time when we instill firm foundations, so their little roots can grow deep and strong. If cultivated and fed properly, these baby birds will be happy and healthy when they leave the nest.

Remember the little rhyme we chanted on the last day of school, “No more pencils, no more books, no more teacher’s dirty looks. school is over, school is done, no more learning, lets have some fun.” Everyone looked forward to Summer. Summer is the time for enjoyment, rest and to just simply be in the moment. Summer to the soul means you have arrived; Adulthood.  Adulthood where, more than likely, most have chosen a career and are married with children. You are in the prime of your life, you can get up from a chair without making a noise, creaking or groaning. Summer isn’t hurried or worried. The summer season is fun and not heavy. If you fall you have time to get back up. If you’ve made some bad decisions, some financial mishaps, married the wrong soul mate, or can’t seem to move from your mother’s basement, if you have steered your ship in the wrong direction, do not fret, it’s still summer and you have time to turn around, get back on course or choose a new one. 

When you have children, you relish the time when school starts back up in the fall, if only for the mere fact that routines get established and lives get organized. Fall to our soul is as much of the same thing. We know what we like, we have our routines, our life is organized just the way we like it. There is so much beauty in the Fall, the air is crisp, and refreshing. If you are a football fan, you have been waiting with anticipation all year, for kick off. That’s the same feeling we have when we finally reach the Fall stage of life. If you have planned well then the saying “Autumn carries more gold in its pockets than any other season.” has two meanings. In this season of life most generally we are setting our minds on retiring. Readying ourselves to reap everything we’ve been sowing. We’ve given our children roots to grow and wings to fly. The nest is empty. You can walk around your house naked. This is also  the time to check your storehouses and make ready for the winter. Fall is my favorite season, what’s not to love, sweaters, scarves, jackets, boots, apple cider, comfort food, cool breezes and bonfires. A time when we slow down and relish the beauty in the landscape. Not only do the leaves change colors but more than likely so does our hair.

 In the fall stage of life you reminisce about the good old days of summer, but not near as much as you do when you reach the winter season of life. If you spend your time harvesting wisely during the fall, then winter will not be a bitter cold season. Winter is the time we usually retreat indoors and aren’t as active as the seasons in the past. Winter of the soul is a time for us to extend grace to our families. Winter wraps up the calendar year, it’s also the last of our season’s of life. Winter holds my favorite holiday; Christmas. A time when my family comes together, in one place.  The festivities of the holidays build all month long. Christmas dinner has been lovingly prepared, eaten and all the dishes are washed and put away, gifts have been opened and the wrappings in the trash. Any time all my family is sleeping under one roof, is when I sleep the best. Everyone is home safe and sound. Christmas night, it seems everyone sleeps in peace. That’s how I hope that it will be when my winter is over, resting in peace.

I would say the season I’m currently in is late fall. I’m slowing down. I’m reminiscing more. I’m about halfway through, scrapbooking my life. I’m trying to do a little everyday so I can finish up before I start forgetting where we were and what we were doing. This is a very relaxing part of my season. I don’t put as much pressure on myself as I used to. Somedays I just curl up in my chair and read.

I rejoice in the fact that I’ve loaded my last load of cows. It takes way too long for my body to recoup after a day of working cows. I have said this before but, this time I mean it. So when my Redneck Romeo gets around to reading this article, he will see it in writing and ya’ll are all my witnesses. I’m a retired ranch hand, from here on out.

One big thing I’ve noticed, in this season of my life is my calendar is pretty empty looking, except for doctors appointments and mani/pedi appointments. So I guess it looks like I’m retired. With new ailments you have new doctor’s appointments. A line on the paperwork that really stood out to me recently was where it asks for your occupation. I studied this for a moment, and wrote the words “retired.” In my summer season, I wrote “housewife” where it asked for my occupation. After many years of marriage and three children in their late teens, I changed my occupation to “Domestic Goddess” which usually brought a laugh and a little conversation. I thought that would make me stand out, you know, be remembered easily. Now that my kids are all grown with children and lives of their own, I felt it would be legitimate, in my fall season to write “retired” the next time I came across this question.

At the hospital for a stress test, the paperwork was placed in front of me, I breezed right through it, and proudly wrote “retired” on the correct line. While on the treadmill, the nurse asked me questions, which is about the equivalent as the dentist expecting you to answer a question with his hands in your mouth. The treadmill had just elevated in the front and increased its speed. I’m doing my best to keep up the pace and breathe, when she decides to chit chat, “Your paperwork says you’re retired, where did you retire from?” The whole time we’ve been chit chatting I’ve been giving one word answers, now I realized I would have to squeeze out five words, “I was a Domestic Goddess” and I tried my best to look her way with a smile. This is where things got a little fuzzy, the next thing I remember is laying on the gurney with oxygen in my nose, and the ladies smiling down at me. As if nothing had happened, I immediately explained, “I started out as a housewife, was promoted to Domestic Goddess, and now I’ve reached the age of “retired.” Yes, I did make the little quotations with my fingers when I said the words “retired.” I felt an awkward silence except for my heart beating in my ears, from now on, I’m just going to claim my occupation as “Old but Gold”

 Life’s seasons are full of mountain top highs and valley lows. We often hear  “Life is short… better enjoy it!” But don’t miss this, “Eternity is long… better prepare for it!”

We all make mistakes, and no one is perfect. “Bloom where you’re planted” is great advice but, sometimes flowers that need full sun get planted in the shade, no matter how much they want to thrive it just won’t happen. Be courageous and make changes!  For me, I have found that living at the end of this dirt road is where I bloom the best, in the peace and quiet, where the cows outnumber the people. I pray each of you bloom during each season of your life. Wherever you find yourself at this moment, take time to drink it in and savor the moment.

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‘Smores Brownies

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By Lacey Vilhauer

Ingredients: Graham Cracker Crust •   1 cup pulverized graham crackers (about 6 graham crackers, blended or food processed) •          1/3 cup butter (melted) •            1/4 cup brown sugar Brownies •             12 Tbs butter • 1 cup brown sugar (lightly packed) •  3/4 cup white sugar •   4 eggs •               1 1/2 tsp vanilla •           1/4 cup flour •  1 cup cocoa powder •               1 cup milk chocolate chips Toppings • 4 Hershey’s Bars •         10-ounce bag of mini-marshmallows

Instructions: • Preheat oven to 350 degrees Fahrenheit • Grease an 8×8 baking pan • Graham Cracker Crust • Pulverize graham crackers and stir in melted butter. Stir in brown sugar. Press into bottom of baking sheet and set aside.

Brownies In a heavy sauce pan melt butter and stir in white and brown sugars, stir over medium heat for about 1-2 minutes until sugar starts to dissolve. Remove from heat, add vanilla. Add eggs in one at a time and whisk them into the sugar butter mixture. Add flour and cocoa powder and stir together. Fold in chocolate chips. Pour brownie mixture over the top of graham cracker crust. Bake for 40 minutes. Remove from oven and turn oven to broil. Immediately put chocolate bars over the top and top them with mini-marshmallows (or cut up large marshmallows). Broil for one to two minutes (keep an eye on them so they don’t burn), remove once brown. Let cool.

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Where the Paved Road Ends: Soak It Up ‘Cause You’re Gonna Miss This

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By Beth Watkins

It’s that time of year again. The school supply aisles look like a cross between Black Friday and a cage fight. Parents are searching for the exact type

of blue folder required by Mrs. Johnson’s third-grade class while children toss random items into the cart like contestants on a game show.

Some moms are weeping because their baby is starting kindergarten.

Other moms are squealing tires out of the school parking

lot, headed to the nearest coffee shop on the first day, whispering, “Thank You, Jesus,” as they turn the radio up.

And truth be told, I’ve been

both.

My children have reminded me that school mornings irritated them. Their clothes were laid out the night before, either by them or by me. They weren’t fond of the routine: get up, get dressed, make the bed, brush your teeth, come in for breakfast, grab the pre-packed backpack and lunch box, and head out the door.

Once they left, I got myself ready for the day. My week of chores was always on the same schedule: laundry, shopping, Bible study, housecleaning, hobby time, and lunches with friends.

When they got home on the bus, the routine started again: • Wash your hands,

• Have a snack, • Go play, • Eat dinner, • Do homework, • Take baths, and go to bed. Unless there were dance lessons, ball practice, or church. Then those took the place of playtime.

Now, before I get myself in trouble, let me say this: I realize

motherhood looks different today than it did when I was raising my kids. Many families need two incomes. Life is expensive. Groceries cost about what a used pickup used to cost.

I understand there are moms out there juggling careers, carpools, ball games, dance lessons, church activities, homework, and trying to figure out what on earth they’re making for supper.

Y’all are carrying a load. But I do wonder sometimes if we’ve climbed aboard a merry-go- round that nobody knows how to stop.

It’s really hard to comprehend how fast time flies. We usually get eighteen years with our children. That’s 936 weeks. By the time they turn nine, half of those weeks are already gone. By the time they’re 13, there are only about 260 weeks left before adulthood. Suddenly, 18 years doesn’t seem nearly as long.

Somewhere along the way, we started believing that a good life requires more stuff, more activities, more travel, more commit

ments, more everything.

The problem is that “more” usually costs us the one thing we can never get back.

Time. Back when my kids were little, it wasn’t uncommon for most moms to be stay-at-home moms.

I realize what a gift that was. Not because I was Mother of the Year—I certainly wasn’t—but because I was there.

I was there for the skinned knees, the science projects started at 9 p.m., the teenage heartbreaks, and the endless interruptions that somehow always happened when I was trying to cook dinner.

Was every moment magical? Absolutely not. Some days I would’ve gladly traded a child or two for a nap.

But those years passed quicker than a summer thunderstorm.

Today, it’s the norm for both

parents to work. Many families feel pressure to keep running. Bigger houses. Newer cars. More vacations. More lessons. More sports. More commitments.

And maybe all those things are wonderful.

But every now and then, I want to grab the emergency brake on life and ask:

• What if we don’t need all of it?

• What if the greatest gift we could give our children isn’t another activity, another gadget, or another destination?

• What if it’s simply our presence?

• What if supper around the table is enough?

• What if playing in the backyard is enough?

• What if a Saturday with nowhere to be is enough?

The world is moving faster than a cat with its tail on fire. It

tells us we need more, do more, buy more, become more.

Maybe the secret is learning that less can sometimes be more.

More peace. More laughter. More connection. More memories. One day those little backpacks will be packed for the last time. The school pickup and drop-off line will be a memory. The house will get quiet.

Far quieter than you ever imagined.

And when that day comes, I don’t think you’ll wish you’d spent more time on the merry- go-round.

I think you’ll wish you’d spent more time watching fireflies, eating supper together, and simply enjoying the people God entrusted to you.

As for me, I wish I could go

back in time and do another round with my babies. I think I would let things go a little more. Maybe I’d let the laundry pile a little higher and the dust settle a little thicker so I could soak up more of our time together.

Don’t get me wrong. I enjoy the people my babies have grown into. I love that they have given us grandbabies—little versions of the babies I once rocked.

But in this season, my house is too quiet, and nobody needs me.

I know there are circumstances where single parents don’t have a choice but to work. I know these days many families are doing everything they can just to stay afloat. My heart isn’t to make anyone feel guilty. It’s simply to remind those of us who are blessed to have children that the ordinary moments are often the ones we’ll miss the most.

If you’re fortunate enough to have children, make time to savor every season of their lives and be fully present.

One day the backpacks will be

put away for good, the house will grow quiet, and you’ll discover what every parent eventually does—that time was the greatest gift you ever had.

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From Savior to Lord

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At a funeral I went to recently, the preacher said something that has stayed with me. He reminded us that, for the man we were honoring, God went from being Savior to Lord.

That phrase captures a turning point in faith. When we first come to know Christ, it’s with gratitude for His saving grace. It’s personal, almost inward-looking: Jesus rescued me. He forgave me. He gave me new life. In that moment, He is our Savior.

But faith is not meant to remain only in the relief of salvation. Over time, we are called to move from simply being saved to truly being led. To call Jesus Lord is to hand Him the reins, to let Him set the course. It means the decisions we make, the way we spend our time, and even the way we handle hardship reflect His authority instead of our own desires.

That shift isn’t dramatic or loud — it’s usually lived out in the everyday. It’s choosing honesty when cutting corners would be easier. It’s setting aside pride to serve others. It’s holding firm in values even when the world says compromise. It’s forgiving, even when it costs something.

And for people who work the land or care for animals, this truth feels especially close. We know what it means to trust something bigger than ourselves — the rain, the soil, the cattle in our care. A rancher can do everything right, but at the end of the day, much is still beyond his control. Faith works the same way. We can’t stop at receiving salvation like a safety net. We have to surrender daily, trusting God to lead, provide, and direct, even when we don’t know what’s ahead.

Scripture asks it plainly: “Why do you call me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do what I say?” (Luke 6:46). The challenge is clear — it isn’t enough to know God as Savior. We are called to live with Him as Lord.

Salvation is the beginning, but lordship is the journey. And just like tending a crop or training a good rope horse, it’s a steady, daily process. Rescue is where faith starts. Surrender is where it grows strong.

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