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Where the Paved Road Ends: The Heart of the Home
By Beth Watkins
You can tell a lot about a couple by the way they laugh together. My in-laws have been married for 64 years. With a twinkle in one eye and a wink with the other, I heard her tell him if he will behave himself they will make it another year. If the good Lord’s willing and the creek don’t rise, I believe they will.
Just days after they were married in a little church in McAlester, Okla., he went off to fight in the Korean War while she finished high school. Throughout the years, they raised three ornery boys, chickens, cattle, hogs, horses and a garden. After retiring from successful careers, they traveled with a fifth wheel. Mom and Dad Watkins are the kindest people you will ever meet, so you can just imagine the number of family and friends they have acquired along life’s journey.
Everyone who comes to visit with Willie and Ms. Betty are invited to sit at the kitchen table and have a cup of coffee. At first glance you would say it was just an ordinary wooden pedestal table with four chairs, but I see it as the heart of their home. This piece of furniture is so very valuable because of the friends and family who sit around it to share a meal, play a game or work a puzzle. This table is where life’s problems are solved, important decisions are made and strategies are developed. It’s where you find guidance, helpful tips, and the meaning of life. It’s where the mail, newspapers and the Bible are read. It’s a place where you recharge and feel loved.
The table itself has a unique story. It is a solid wood table made from an old shipping crate. Underneath you can still see the writing “Krebs, I.T.” Krebs is a little community just east of McAlester. If you’ve ever eaten at the famous Italian restaurant, “Pete’s Place,” then you’ve been to Krebs, Okla. Before Oklahoma became the 47th state in 1907 it was known as I.T. or Indian Territory.
Early in their marriage, Willie came home one day and asked Ms. Betty, “How long are we going to eat at this little folding table in the kitchen?” Her reply was simple, “Until I have a round wood table.”
Willie, like any other smart man would do, set out to find his bride a table. When he brought the second-hand table home, it was an awful green color. Someone had been using it as a work table; there were rings from paint cans scattered across the top. Willie took it apart and stripped it down and created a beautiful, light oak table. When reassembling this table, he discovered it had to go back together exactly as it was taken apart, so for sure, it originally was built with love and creativity, not from a pattern that was just duplicated. So, like this couple, it’s an original one-of-a kind work of art.
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‘Smores Brownies
By Lacey Vilhauer
Ingredients: Graham Cracker Crust • 1 cup pulverized graham crackers (about 6 graham crackers, blended or food processed) • 1/3 cup butter (melted) • 1/4 cup brown sugar Brownies • 12 Tbs butter • 1 cup brown sugar (lightly packed) • 3/4 cup white sugar • 4 eggs • 1 1/2 tsp vanilla • 1/4 cup flour • 1 cup cocoa powder • 1 cup milk chocolate chips Toppings • 4 Hershey’s Bars • 10-ounce bag of mini-marshmallows
Instructions: • Preheat oven to 350 degrees Fahrenheit • Grease an 8×8 baking pan • Graham Cracker Crust • Pulverize graham crackers and stir in melted butter. Stir in brown sugar. Press into bottom of baking sheet and set aside.
Brownies In a heavy sauce pan melt butter and stir in white and brown sugars, stir over medium heat for about 1-2 minutes until sugar starts to dissolve. Remove from heat, add vanilla. Add eggs in one at a time and whisk them into the sugar butter mixture. Add flour and cocoa powder and stir together. Fold in chocolate chips. Pour brownie mixture over the top of graham cracker crust. Bake for 40 minutes. Remove from oven and turn oven to broil. Immediately put chocolate bars over the top and top them with mini-marshmallows (or cut up large marshmallows). Broil for one to two minutes (keep an eye on them so they don’t burn), remove once brown. Let cool.
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Where the Paved Road Ends: Soak It Up ‘Cause You’re Gonna Miss This
By Beth Watkins
It’s that time of year again. The school supply aisles look like a cross between Black Friday and a cage fight. Parents are searching for the exact type
of blue folder required by Mrs. Johnson’s third-grade class while children toss random items into the cart like contestants on a game show.
Some moms are weeping because their baby is starting kindergarten.
Other moms are squealing tires out of the school parking
lot, headed to the nearest coffee shop on the first day, whispering, “Thank You, Jesus,” as they turn the radio up.
And truth be told, I’ve been
both.
My children have reminded me that school mornings irritated them. Their clothes were laid out the night before, either by them or by me. They weren’t fond of the routine: get up, get dressed, make the bed, brush your teeth, come in for breakfast, grab the pre-packed backpack and lunch box, and head out the door.
Once they left, I got myself ready for the day. My week of chores was always on the same schedule: laundry, shopping, Bible study, housecleaning, hobby time, and lunches with friends.
When they got home on the bus, the routine started again: • Wash your hands,
• Have a snack, • Go play, • Eat dinner, • Do homework, • Take baths, and go to bed. Unless there were dance lessons, ball practice, or church. Then those took the place of playtime.
Now, before I get myself in trouble, let me say this: I realize
motherhood looks different today than it did when I was raising my kids. Many families need two incomes. Life is expensive. Groceries cost about what a used pickup used to cost.
I understand there are moms out there juggling careers, carpools, ball games, dance lessons, church activities, homework, and trying to figure out what on earth they’re making for supper.
Y’all are carrying a load. But I do wonder sometimes if we’ve climbed aboard a merry-go- round that nobody knows how to stop.
It’s really hard to comprehend how fast time flies. We usually get eighteen years with our children. That’s 936 weeks. By the time they turn nine, half of those weeks are already gone. By the time they’re 13, there are only about 260 weeks left before adulthood. Suddenly, 18 years doesn’t seem nearly as long.
Somewhere along the way, we started believing that a good life requires more stuff, more activities, more travel, more commit
ments, more everything.
The problem is that “more” usually costs us the one thing we can never get back.
Time. Back when my kids were little, it wasn’t uncommon for most moms to be stay-at-home moms.
I realize what a gift that was. Not because I was Mother of the Year—I certainly wasn’t—but because I was there.
I was there for the skinned knees, the science projects started at 9 p.m., the teenage heartbreaks, and the endless interruptions that somehow always happened when I was trying to cook dinner.
Was every moment magical? Absolutely not. Some days I would’ve gladly traded a child or two for a nap.
But those years passed quicker than a summer thunderstorm.
Today, it’s the norm for both
parents to work. Many families feel pressure to keep running. Bigger houses. Newer cars. More vacations. More lessons. More sports. More commitments.
And maybe all those things are wonderful.
But every now and then, I want to grab the emergency brake on life and ask:
• What if we don’t need all of it?
• What if the greatest gift we could give our children isn’t another activity, another gadget, or another destination?
• What if it’s simply our presence?
• What if supper around the table is enough?
• What if playing in the backyard is enough?
• What if a Saturday with nowhere to be is enough?
The world is moving faster than a cat with its tail on fire. It
tells us we need more, do more, buy more, become more.
Maybe the secret is learning that less can sometimes be more.
More peace. More laughter. More connection. More memories. One day those little backpacks will be packed for the last time. The school pickup and drop-off line will be a memory. The house will get quiet.
Far quieter than you ever imagined.
And when that day comes, I don’t think you’ll wish you’d spent more time on the merry- go-round.
I think you’ll wish you’d spent more time watching fireflies, eating supper together, and simply enjoying the people God entrusted to you.
As for me, I wish I could go
back in time and do another round with my babies. I think I would let things go a little more. Maybe I’d let the laundry pile a little higher and the dust settle a little thicker so I could soak up more of our time together.
Don’t get me wrong. I enjoy the people my babies have grown into. I love that they have given us grandbabies—little versions of the babies I once rocked.
But in this season, my house is too quiet, and nobody needs me.
I know there are circumstances where single parents don’t have a choice but to work. I know these days many families are doing everything they can just to stay afloat. My heart isn’t to make anyone feel guilty. It’s simply to remind those of us who are blessed to have children that the ordinary moments are often the ones we’ll miss the most.
If you’re fortunate enough to have children, make time to savor every season of their lives and be fully present.
One day the backpacks will be
put away for good, the house will grow quiet, and you’ll discover what every parent eventually does—that time was the greatest gift you ever had.
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From Savior to Lord
At a funeral I went to recently, the preacher said something that has stayed with me. He reminded us that, for the man we were honoring, God went from being Savior to Lord.
That phrase captures a turning point in faith. When we first come to know Christ, it’s with gratitude for His saving grace. It’s personal, almost inward-looking: Jesus rescued me. He forgave me. He gave me new life. In that moment, He is our Savior.
But faith is not meant to remain only in the relief of salvation. Over time, we are called to move from simply being saved to truly being led. To call Jesus Lord is to hand Him the reins, to let Him set the course. It means the decisions we make, the way we spend our time, and even the way we handle hardship reflect His authority instead of our own desires.
That shift isn’t dramatic or loud — it’s usually lived out in the everyday. It’s choosing honesty when cutting corners would be easier. It’s setting aside pride to serve others. It’s holding firm in values even when the world says compromise. It’s forgiving, even when it costs something.
And for people who work the land or care for animals, this truth feels especially close. We know what it means to trust something bigger than ourselves — the rain, the soil, the cattle in our care. A rancher can do everything right, but at the end of the day, much is still beyond his control. Faith works the same way. We can’t stop at receiving salvation like a safety net. We have to surrender daily, trusting God to lead, provide, and direct, even when we don’t know what’s ahead.
Scripture asks it plainly: “Why do you call me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do what I say?” (Luke 6:46). The challenge is clear — it isn’t enough to know God as Savior. We are called to live with Him as Lord.
Salvation is the beginning, but lordship is the journey. And just like tending a crop or training a good rope horse, it’s a steady, daily process. Rescue is where faith starts. Surrender is where it grows strong.
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