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Western Housewives – Contentment

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By Summer McMillen

Holiday wishes to you and your kin. I imagine right about now you are gathered around the fire, sipping eggnog, and watching Chevy Chase get electrocuted for the 100th time in the last five minutes. If you are, then you are definitely my kind of people because I happen to be doing the same.

A lot of the Holiday Season is about waiting. You wait for the NFR. You wait for the perfect night to go look at lights. You wait for your Charolais bulls to come in so you can put Santa hats on them for the annual Christmas card. You wait for your favorite family Christmas meal, you know, the one with the good rolls. And you wait for present time to come. Waiting, waiting, and more waiting.

I was thinking the other day that this is not so very different than my day to day life. I wait for my family to wake up so I can start the noisy chores of the day. I wait for my husband to come home so we can have supper together. I wait for my baby girl to grow up so we can start riding together. I wait for the laundry to dry so I can start the folding process. I wait for the rodeo to get over so we can start our drive to the next one. This “waiting” list could possibly go on forever.

It makes me think of a December a couple of years ago before my husband and I were married when I had a learning experience with waiting. We were spending Christmas with my parents in Texas because they had had a lot of snow that year and their roof had caved in. It was the most wonderful time of year.

Since there was so much snow on the ground, it was no surprise that the thousands of cattle my father had turned out on wheat were nowhere to be found. Every man in the panhandle who could operate a horse or 4-wheeler was recruited to help find everyone’s cattle. When they would come home in the evenings they were cold, hungry, and very cranky. My sister and I stayed at home during the days with no power just in case someone needed something. One morning I was gazing out at the winter wonderland sipping my peppermint flavored coffee in my favorite Christmas mug when I saw three loose horses run past our front window.

For just a mere second I was puzzled and then the panic set in. We had several of our best horses in the pens at the house, including my fiancé’s, that we thought were safely locked up. We forgot to take into account the seven foot high snow drifts that rested against the corral, making an easy escape for a restless horse. It just so happened that these restless horses turned out to be my fiancé’s.

All I could think was that he would probably never speak to me again if I let his good calf horse disappear into the Great Texas Panhandle blizzard of 2015. I went and saddled the only horse left in the pens. I don’t even remember his name or if he was broke to ride. I threw on a saddle that wasn’t mine and a bridle that he didn’t like and hit a lope. As soon as the escapees saw me, instead of coming towards me they ran as fast as they could in the other direction. I chased them for the better part of 30 minutes before I realized I was making matters much worse than I was improving them. This was a crucial moment in my life when I realized being still and waiting for help wasn’t as bad as it seemed.

In defeat, I headed back towards the house and was welcomed with just what I needed: a man with a trailer. My uncle had seen the commotion from the highway and had showed up to help. We had the horses back in their pens in about ten minutes, and I have yet to tell my husband what all occurred that day.

Like I said, sometimes being still and waiting for the right moment is the best policy. So, in this literal season of waiting, instead of getting worked up over everything, how about we all decide to sit back, sip our coffee, and watch the fire? Chances are we will get into much less trouble by deciding to be content.

Read more in the December issue of Oklahoma Farm & Ranch.

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The Sounds of the Country

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Daylight in the country is busy. There are engines, gates, dogs, birds, wind, and people moving with purpose. Even when it feels quiet, there is usually something making noise. It is familiar noise, the kind you stop noticing because it belongs there.

Night is different.

When the sun drops and the work winds down, the sounds change. Some disappear entirely. Others step forward like they were waiting their turn. It is only then that you realize how much the land talks after dark.

The first thing most people notice is how far sound carries at night. Voices travel farther. A truck door slams a half mile away and still feels close. Coyotes sound like they are just beyond the fence, even when they are scattered across an entire section.

There are reasons for that. Cooler nighttime air is denser, allowing sound waves to move more efficiently. During the day, sunlight heats the ground unevenly, creating air layers that bend and scatter sound. At night, temperatures even out, and sound travels straighter and farther. The land does not get louder. You just hear more of it.

Coyotes are often the headliners. Their howls, yips, and barks are not random noise. They are communication. A single howl can be a location check. Group yipping can signal territory or reunite scattered pack members. What sounds like chaos is often a coordinated conversation that carries for miles.

Owls tend to follow. Great horned owls announce themselves with deep, rhythmic calls that sound older than fences and roads. Barred owls ask their unmistakable questions from creek bottoms and timber. These calls serve the same basic purpose as the coyotes’. Territory, presence, and pair bonding, all broadcast into the dark.

Insects fill the gaps. Crickets and katydids create a steady background hum that changes with temperature and season. In late summer, their calls are loud enough to drown out distant traffic. In early fall, the rhythm slows. By winter, silence settles in where that sound once lived.

Frogs take over after rain. Stock tanks, ditches, and low spots become stages. Each species has its own call, its own timing, its own volume. To someone unfamiliar with rural nights, it can sound overwhelming. To those who live with it, it becomes reassurance that water is present and life is moving.

Livestock contribute their own nighttime sounds. A cow bawling for a calf. Horses shifting and blowing softly in the dark. The occasional thump of hooves when something unseen moves through the pasture. These noises are usually brief, but they catch your attention because they break the expected rhythm.

Some sounds are seasonal. In the fall, migrating birds pass overhead, calling to one another in the dark as they navigate by stars and landmarks. In spring, night birds return, filling the air with calls that have been absent for months. The land sounds different when life is arriving versus when it is leaving.

What surprises many people is how much quieter the country can be without human interference. With fewer buildings, less traffic, and minimal artificial lighting, natural sounds are not masked the way they are in towns and cities. Even distant highways fade into the background, leaving space for subtler noises to emerge.

That quiet can feel uncomfortable at first. Silence magnifies small sounds. A branch snapping or leaves shifting can sound larger than it is. Over time, you learn what belongs and what does not. The land teaches you what is normal.

Nighttime sounds also slow you down. There is less pressure to move, to fix, to finish. Sitting on a porch or leaning against a fence, you start to listen instead of scanning. The dark removes visual distractions, leaving only sound to tell the story.

Those sounds carry information. Weather is changing. Animals are moving. Seasons are turning. Without realizing it, you begin to recognize patterns. You notice when the coyotes are quieter than usual, or when frogs call earlier than expected. The land speaks in small signals long before anything obvious happens.

Most of these sounds go unnoticed unless you stop and listen. They are not dramatic on their own. They do not demand attention. But together, they form the soundtrack of rural life after dark.

In a world that rarely slows down, nighttime in the country offers something increasingly rare. A chance to listen without interruption. To notice what has always been there. To understand that even when the lights are off and the work is done, the land never really rests.

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Growing Something Better

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By Beth Watkins
There’s something about springtime that makes folks want to open windows, clean out closets, and maybe even peek out the front door to see if the neighbors are still alive and ready for a cookout. After a long winter of confusing, seesawing temperatures—where you needed shorts one day and a parka the next—March just rolls in with her own mysterious mood swings. Will she bring warm breezes and wild daffodils, or will she slap us with a late snowstorm and the flu for good measure?


March is the season of new growth. The earth starts greening up, baby calves find their legs, and every hardware store in the county sells out of tomato plants. Folks start making ambitious garden plans, fueled by equal parts hope, memory loss about last year’s weeds, and the siren song of heirloom seed catalogs. You find yourself petting baby chicks at Atwoods, thinking, “How hard can it be?” while conveniently forgetting you once killed a cactus.


But maybe this year, along with our gardens and yards, it’s time we put a little effort into growing something else: personal responsibility. And maybe even—brace yourself—neighborly love.


Now, I’m not talking about the kind of neighborly love where you let someone move in with their three untrained dogs, six boxes of drama, and a Wi-Fi password they never stop using. I mean the kind where we treat folks with basic kindness and decency, without expecting them to carry our groceries, fix our fences, or raise our children.


Somewhere along the way, it seems like society forgot that love and enabling are two different things. The Bible says to love your neighbor as yourself. It does not say to take your neighbor on as a dependent. Yet more and more, we’re seeing an attitude of entitlement blooming like crabgrass in what used to be tight-knit, self-reliant communities.


There was a time when being called “self-sufficient” was a compliment. It meant you could patch a roof with tar and a prayer, make a pot of beans stretch a week, and wrangle your own problems without immediately calling the government, your mama, or Channel 5 News. You didn’t expect handouts—you offered a hand up when someone else truly needed it. But lately, some folks have gotten real comfortable hollering “help me!” before they’ve even tried standing up on their own two feet.


Case in point: a woman on social media said she needed her oil changed and a chicken coop built. She had the supplies but no funds to pay for help. Fair enough—times are tough. But the very next day, she posted photos of her estate sale haul, bragging about how she “only” spent $400. Not even a month later, she’s showing off her custom steel gate entryway. Clearly it’s not a money shortage—it’s a priority misplacement.


That kind of thinking doesn’t just stunt personal growth—it chokes the roots of the community. I know people need help, and we are called to love our neighbors, but let’s get real, folks. Last year’s gold medal for gall goes to the woman hosting her child’s backyard birthday party who posted: “Can anyone bring enough food for about twenty people? The child loves spaghetti with all the trimmings, and a cake. Please deliver it hot, at party time.” You think I’m kidding? I’m not. I’m still in shock.


We weren’t meant to live like hermits, but we weren’t meant to sponge off the folks who are doing the work either. There’s a balance somewhere between “do-it-all-yourself survivalist” and “the world owes me a living.” And that sweet spot is where real growth happens.


Spring is a perfect reminder of that. You can’t just toss seeds in the dirt and expect a harvest. You have to work the soil, pull the weeds, and show up every day—even when it’s hot, dry, or swarming with grasshoppers. Same goes for character. You’ve got to tend it. Cultivate it. And not just when people are watching.


If you want a better world, you’ve got to start in your own backyard. Literally and figuratively. Pick up the trash that blew into your fence line, and since it came from your poly cart, go grab your soda can out of your neighbor’s yard too. Wave at your neighbor, even if he insists on mowing in Crocs and tube socks and blowing his grass trimmings into the street. A little physical kindness can go a long way.


I grew up being taught that if someone was struggling, lost a loved one, or just got over an illness, you found a way to help—even if it was just sending over a casserole. Honestly, our first instinct should be to offer help, not because we want a parade in our honor, but because it’s the right thing to do. If you’re swamped with work or kids or life, send a food gift card. If you’re short on funds, offer to mow a lawn, babysit for an hour, or just check in.


We should teach our kids and grandkids that it’s natural to struggle. That hard work isn’t punishment—it’s how things get built. It’s how we move forward. Asking for help in a crisis is fine, but leaning on others indefinitely is no way to grow tall and strong. A goal shouldn’t be “how do I get the best handouts” but rather, “how do I build a life I’m proud of?”


We all need each other, but we also need to pull our own weight. Otherwise, this whole wagon’s going to tip. There are programs out there to help folks get back on their feet, but they aren’t just hangouts—they’re meant to be springboards. To break the cycle. To build something better.


So maybe this spring, as the world begins to thaw and bloom again, take a quiet moment to reflect on the life you’re growing—both inside and out. Ask yourself what kind of neighbor you are. Are you showing love, or just expecting it? Are you helping things bloom, or draining the rain barrel?


There’s still a lot of good in this world. I see it every day—in farmers helping neighbors fix fence after a storm, in church ladies who deliver meals without a fuss, in kids learning to shake hands and look folks in the eye. But good doesn’t grow on its own. It takes effort. It takes intention. And sometimes it takes a little tough love with a smile.


So here’s to spring: the season of new beginnings, fresh starts, and maybe, just maybe, a collective shift back to kindness, accountability, and old-fashioned neighborly grace.


Let’s roll up our sleeves, open the windows, clean out the cobwebs. Let’s go through our closets and our abundance, and donate to local places that help people get back on their feet—places that believe in a hand up, not just a handout. That’s how we grow something better.

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From Garden Novice to Pickle Pro

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Dealing with a Very Abundant Harvest

When I first decided to start a small garden, it was more of a whimsical experiment than a serious endeavor. I had seen countless posts on social media of people proudly showing off their homegrown vegetables, and I thought, “Why not give it a try?” Armed with enthusiasm and a bit of research, I planted a variety of vegetables, including a few pickling cucumber plants. Little did I know that these cucumbers would thrive beyond my wildest expectations.

As the weeks passed, my garden became a green haven. Every morning, I would step outside with a cup of coffee, marveling at the progress of my plants. The cucumbers, in particular, seemed to have taken on a life of their own. Before I knew it, I was harvesting cucumbers by the basketful. While it was thrilling to see the fruits of my labor, I quickly realized that I needed a plan for this overabundance.

My first thought, naturally, was to make pickles. I had always loved the tangy crunch of a good dill pickle, and now I had the perfect opportunity to create my own. I started with classic dill pickles, using a simple brine of vinegar, water, salt, and fresh dill. The process was surprisingly straightforward, and the result was jars of delicious pickles that I could enjoy for months to come.

But why stop at dill pickles? I soon found myself experimenting with different flavors. Bread and butter pickles, with their sweet and tangy profile, became a household favorite. For a bit of a kick, I added chili flakes to some batches, creating spicy pickles that were perfect for snacking.

Expanding My Culinary Horizons

With so many cucumbers at my disposal, I began exploring other culinary possibilities. I discovered that chopped cucumbers make an excellent base for a pickled relish, which is fantastic on hot dogs and burgers. Another hit was pickled cucumbers and onions—a delightful combination that added a burst of flavor to sandwiches and salads.

Not all my cucumber creations were pickled. I fell in love with cucumber salad, a refreshing dish that quickly became a staple in our summer meals. A simple mix of cucumbers, vinegar, sugar, and dill made for a light and tasty side dish. I also experimented with an Asian-inspired version, using rice vinegar, sesame oil, and soy sauce for a tangy twist.

In my quest to use up every last cucumber, I ventured into making cucumber agua fresca. This refreshing drink, blended with water, lime juice, and a touch of sugar, was a hit with my family and friends. It was the perfect way to stay hydrated on hot summer days.

Sharing the Bounty

With so many cucumber creations, I found joy in sharing my bounty with friends and family. I prepared decorative jars of pickles as gifts. It was heartwarming to see how my small garden project had blossomed into something that could bring happiness to others.

Interestingly, my cucumbers found uses beyond the kitchen as well. I discovered that cucumbers make excellent ingredients for homemade face masks. Their cooling properties were soothing and refreshing, adding a touch of spa luxury to my skincare routine.

Starting my garden was one of the best decisions I ever made. What began as a social media-inspired experiment turned into a journey of growth, both in my garden and in my culinary skills. The abundance of cucumbers challenged me to be creative and resourceful, resulting in a variety of delicious and useful products.

For anyone considering starting a garden, I say go for it. The rewards are plentiful, and you never know—you might just find yourself with an overabundance of something wonderful, just like I did. And when that happens, embrace it. Experiment, share, and most importantly, enjoy every moment of your gardening adventure.

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